Thursday, May 17, 2012

Hop Against Homophobia

The purpose of this hop is to bring attention to homophobia and to stand together as an m/m writer community to fight of discrimination against the m/m genre.

Not  long ago a friend of the kiddo's killed himself. He lived in an orphanage in town that's tied to a major church. You know where I'm going with this, right? Hours after he came out he put a gun in his mouth. Details were never released, but he talked to some of his friends before he told his foster parents. My kiddo was one of the last folks to talk to him...

She found out the next morning.

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The recent fiasco with Romance Writers of America is a perfect example, too. I’m not a member, but I was seriously thinking about joining. Then I heard about RWA excluding m/m romances from one of their contests because it felt "icky" to the judges.

Really? They used that word? Doesn’t that say a lot?

Well, they canceled the contest. Frankly, I think that's an insult, too. Apparently no one thought of trying to find judges who were not “icked-out” by men loving each other. I’m sure they could have found plenty of people to judge if the word had been put out.

There's a lot of work to be done for people to accept m/m fiction as something just acceptable as other fiction. Attention must be drawn to this subject—everyday lives are ruined or lost. And this has to stop.


Okay now, so, what to do. Join my blog. If you’re a member already let me know in the comment. Then answer this simple question: Do you believe there’s life out there in the great vastness of space?

Leave me a comment with your email address. Please make sure to leave your email! The comment can be as long or as short as you wish! Someone will win a copy of Nighttime Wishes, my latest scifi release from Romance First. I’ll randomly choose a winner and contact you by email May 21!

Thanks, and have fun with the hop! I may bump into y’all, lol!


Visit the Hop page for for links : Hop Against homophobia


  1. A group of writers and the best they could come up with is "icky"? Wow. Have to shake my head at that.

    cojazzchick AT yahoo DOT com

  2. Coming out and suicide are very touchy subjects with me. But it's the main reason I write m/m and I won't stop bc someone thought it was icky. Being gay is a way of life. It's beautiful and one day I hope for everyone to see it that way. Good job M.


  3. Icky is such a childish word for adults to use. they should be ashamed for excluding a bunch of talented writers just because they are uncomfortable with the genre of story written. I love all of your stories.

  4. Its sad to hear about these suicides and the suffering that individuals go through. Hopefully things will improve with time.

    About your question. My answer is YES. I just find it hard to believe that in this entire galaxy, where we are but a dot on the map, that there is not any other life.... so YES, I believe there is.

    Do not consider me for the contest since I bought Nighttime Wishes already. :)

  5. In this day and time I can't believe how ignorant people are. I couldn't imagine turning away from my child no matter what. It kills me every time I hear about someone committing suicide. I hope that things get better in the near future. Yes I believe that there is life in space and all I hope is it's very friendly.
    already a GFC follower - Sherry S. and email subscriber
    sstrode at scrtc dot com

  6. I have little direct experience with homophobia but have observed it through dear friends who have had to deal with personal and professional attacks. It's mind-boggling how intolerant people can be toward their fellow human beings. I simply can't wrap my head around that kind of small-mindedness.

    As for life in the universe: I believe the universe is far too vast for life to be a singular occurrence. If life ignited here, it probably ignited elsewhere. It may be very different from life as we know it, but it's out there. I hope it's friendly. Not betting on it, though.

    I'm also out of the running for Nighttime Wishes, as I bought it already. :)

  7. I had thought of joining the RWA too, but not if they are filled with people like that. I had heard that they were anti-m/m writers, that just cinched it. Why should I pay for the privilege of being discriminated against for what I write?

    Suicide is never an answer, I just wish young people didn't believe it was. If you don't stay here, you can't solve the problem. There is no reason for us to lose our children in this way. That child should have been loved - end of story.

    I have NW wishes too and loved it, but good luck to everyone else.


  8. Life in space? Absolutely. Considering the fact that we can't even comprehend the vastness of the Unverse, I think it is the height of ignorance and arrogance to think that we are the only living beings out there.

  9. Good Morning, I just wanted to say how much I admire you for banding together with so many authors for such a worthy cause. Good luck in your endeavors.

    Life in space - For sure. We'd be pretty arrogant to think we're the only life forms in the universe.

    Missy Martine

  10. I am completely speechless and have nothing to say about people who use "icky" to describe love. That is just wrong.

    I second Julie above when she says that suicide is never an answer. Life is fragile as it is. My friend lost her boyfriend through a freak car accident. They were just on the slippery edge of falling in love and commitment. She lost it all - to her, he was here today and gone the next.

    Losing a life is painful, but when it is someone so young, its just so much harder to bear. I think that its sad that the people in the child's world cause him to believe that he had no other choices except death. Children should always be protected.

    As for life out there? YES, absolutely, definitely yes. Because life in its fragility is also highly resilient and adaptable. I believe that life can sprout as long as there's space. Because while my life has been okay, its boring and i refuse to believe that there's nothing out there for us to fantasize and imagine about. Because I am determined not to be afraid of the unknown nor the different, just based on that principle alone, I am resolute in my belief that we are not the only ones alive.

    That being said, I have Nighttime Wishes too! So exclude me. I love it! Fascinating, multi-purpose blue light... oooo.

    Okay, talkative much.

    Shermin -

  11. I hate hearing the tragic stories of kids being effected by homophobia. They need to be told and we need to hear them but it's so sad and a terrible loss. I'm sorry your family was impacted by it.

    I definitely think there is life in outer space.

    andreagrendahl AT gmail DOT com

  12. Yes there has to be.

  13. I was completely unaware of homophobia until high school, I have two moms- well three really if you count my birth mother, and I was astounded that people would question their right to raise a child, their ability. I have always found it redivulous that people would believe homophobia is a sin- when to new it is so clearly not a choice- who would want to be a part of a group that is so targeted, and when did anyone pick who to love?

    As for life in space- I think it would be quite selfish for us earthlings to assume we are tho only life in all the universe, there are bound to be others. Whether we will find them, or of they will find us is another story :)

    1. Oops my email is :)

  14. Thank you for taking part in this hop and having your say. hopefully one day we can all look back on this and ask what the big fuss was (Because of course people are all equal) it won't happen in my life time but I am ever hopeful that it will happen.

  15. Hey, Church. I have a few things to say.

    First, "icky", really? You'd think people judging writers would be more creative in their insults. Of course, if they are bothering to insult love, then they are already lacking in the creativity genes. People need to grow up and realize that there is nothing, and I mean NOTHING wrong with being gay. We've mostly gotten over racism and sexism, so why can't we get over homophobia?

    My great uncle is gay. He's been out probably since his 20's or 30's, after a failed marriage. I thank my lucky stars every day that homophobia hasn't really reached him. He's crude, but I love him.

    People need to see that being gay does not define them. Being gay is who they are, yes, but it is only a PART of who they are. Judging people as disgusting for being gay is like judging cheese as disgusting just because some cheeses have molds on the rind or throughout. The mold is only a part of the cheese. Either you eat it, or you leave it alone. Let somebody else eat it.

    Now, number two. Do you believe there’s life out there in the great vastness of space?

    Yes, I do. There are too many planets and too many galaxies out there for me to believe that we are the ones alive. We can't be alone in all this space. It's just inconceivable. Now, are they nice? Hostile? I believe there are both hostile and friendly beings out there. I just hope I'm alive when find them. Well, when we find the friendly ones, anyway.

    I forgot what number three was going to be while I was making my point for number one. :/

    My e-mail address is

    Much Love,

  16. I guess they forgot their own name, RoMANce Writers of America. That fiasco gets my dander up and it's still up from the passing of Amendment One in NC. I won't comment more because I know better than to preach to the choir.

    Anyway out there in the great vastness of space? There's gotta be life. I don't think we'll hear from them until we get our act on this planet together. Hopefully that will happen in my life time.

    Email: asta1999 at gmail dot com

  17. People are such idiots! OK, do I believe in aliens? Yes! I just think they are smart enough not to come here and deal with all the BS in our world. I like to think that they have evolved enough that they don't let something as trivial as the color of your skin or who you want to spend your life with bother them. OK I think that's it. Thanks for the contest and for the wonderful stories. Sara ( Oh I'm already a member of your blog.

  18. I hate people like that and the bad thing is people in my family are like that. I believe aliens are real. I think that one day we may find life out there cause really it's just soo huge. I just hope if we do find life out there one day that the government doesn't do something stupid with it. I just joined your blog. Thanks Cheryl (

  19. Growing up in an extremely conservative family (and country), I am truly thankful that they (parents) haven't taught me to hate but embrace all that is different from us. Race, Gender, Sexual Orientation should never matter.
    Respect ALL people.

    There is life in the vastness of space. And I'm sure it's as beautiful as ours.


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  21. I believe in life in outer space and think, in fact, they have found signs of microbial life. If you mean intelligent life, if you look at all those stars and imagine all the planets and moons that could orbit those stars, it seems almost tragic if there isn't other life out there.

    As to Homophobia, I think it's no one's business who anyone else chooses to partner. I don't believe in Love Thy Neighbor, but I do believe in Tolerate Thy Neighbor. "I believe X, you believe Y. Great. Let's go get some coffee and get to know each other."


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  23. I can't believe they called it icky - ignorant morons.
    Yes I definitely believe there is life out there in space, there is so much out there we can't be the only ones.

    ineedtoread76 [at]

  24. Just looking at the vastness of space, it would be extreme elitism to believe that we are the only sentient creatures in the entire universe. We don't understand our own planet, or solar system, let alone the thousands of others that make up our own galaxy. We may be an old species, or we may be very young in the scale of the cosmos. There may be others wondering the same thing, or those who choose to stay within certain boundaries. We may truly have been visited by others, and their true motives probably no more evil than our own, were we to be the explorers.


  25. I showed a bunch of these post to the teens in my family to show them how hurt some "innocent" remarks are to many others. I get so annoyed when my nephew says "you're so gay". ERRRR drove me crazy. I know he didn't mean anything by it but it is so wrong to use that as a saying. I think that these post have helped. Thank you all for sharing with us!

  26. Just stopping by to say hello and thanks to all the blog participants.

    Thank you for sharing your story. I hope your daughter is handling the loss okay.

    And yes, there is definitely life out there on other planets. I just hope they are advanced enough not to have such things as homophobia at all.

  27. Honestly, what age group was the leadership of RWA- four?

    Three quick stories. I have a gay son who is afraid to tell his homophobic father (my ex). I also know of a gay 20 year old who recently committed suicide partly due to physical and sexual abuse by his family because they refused to accept him.

    On the other hand, one of my high school friends who grew up to become a very conservative Christian pastor is in New York this weekend- celebrating the marriage of his gay son to his life partner. With no condemnation or prejudice, I might add, so some people can change for the better.

  28. I can't believe grown a** adults used the word icky cause of m/m romance. Stupid! When I look at the vastness of the sky I think it would be completely egotistically of us to think that in all of that space we are the only ones.
    Thanks Don (

  29. I know we are supposed to answer the question but I think everyone should read what Lynn Hagen wrote on her blog over at: It has a lot to do with the topic at hand.
    Thanks Kim (

  30. Yes, I believe there's life out in space. Why should our solar system be the only one with a habitable planet?

    I made a realization just now that I still have over 150 blogs to read before tonight, and I'll never make it at this rate, so I'm leaving a quick thank you for taking part and please enter me into your contest. Then I'm reading the blogs at my lazure - without the time limit - and leaving decent replies. I love reading these blogs. Each and every entry is amazing.

    eripike at gmail dot com

  31. Hello There,
    I just wanted to see if you were currently interested in additional guest bloggers for your blog site.
    I see that you've accepted some guest posters in the past - are there any specific guidelines you need me to follow while making submissions?
    If you're open to submissions, whom would I need to send them to?
    I'm eager to send some contributions to your blog and think that I can cover some interesting topics.
    Thanks for your time,


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